Jenifer Lopez admitted in an interview when she was prompted with a question about her “non-traditional” family, that she has let society get in her head. She talked about dealing with those grueling feelings of failure that moms tend to deal with on a daily basis. She actually gave me an insight into her motherhood that allowed me to finally relate to her. Yes, I can relate to Jenifer Lopez, not because she is latina, not because she has two kids, not even because she is an artist. I relate to her because many times I have felt the same feelings about my role as a mother.
My mind is a daily battlefield. If my kids get a low grade on a test, I feel it is because I didn’t spend enough time studying with them and for that I failed them, or if they get sick with a cold, it’s because I forgot to give them their vitamins and for that I failed them too. I mean, the pressure I put on myself to be this “perfect mom” in this “prefect family” is out of control. I try to be “perfect” just to be constantly confronted by my imperfections. Every night I go through a mental audit to see where I failed that day and let me tell you the list gets longer and longer everyday.
Why this need to be perfect? Have I let society get in my head too? Am I a victim of my own crazy idea of being a “perfect mom” and having a “perfect family”? I think so. JLo said that she has to frequently remind herself that as long as her kids feel that they are loved more than anything in the world, as long as they feel safe and protected, then that’s all that matters. I must remind myself of the same and give myself a break. This constant battle is not a healthy way of living and it’s not something I want to pass on to my daughter nor my son. There is no such a thing as a perfect mom or a perfect family and I know that, yet I still thrive for that doing more harm than good to my family and myself.
I pledge to go easy on me, to do the best I can and to be ok with the outcome. If I stop demanding perfection from myself and love myself anyway then my kids will know that they don’t need to be perfect in oder to be loved by me, and that my friends… is perfect!
- Jennifer Lopez Opens Up About Her ‘Non-Traditional Family’ (abcnews.go.com)
- JLo, Sofia Vergara, Salma Hayek and other sexy Latinas over 40 (voxxi.com)
- Jennifer Lopez Talks Motherhood with Zann (923now.cbslocal.com)
- Why Jennifer Lopez says motherhood has inspired her “perspective on the world” (nbclatino.com)
- Jennifer Lopez’s New Show ‘The Fosters’ Stirs Up Controversy Over Same-Sex Couple Raising Family (latinospost.com)